Sometimes we go to certain people to talk things out because we know exactly what they are going to tell us. It's what we need to hear.
The homework is to find someone who will hold space for you to have your own process.
I have a great friend that I can go to and I know that no matter my story he will unbiasedly sit with me. It allows me to figure things out for myself in a way that works for me. Not a way that society would have me think/ feel/ be, but what truly works for my soul, my integrity.
I hope this for you.